Every year in my Intro to Women's, Gender, and Sexuality Studies course, I teach Kristen Roupenian's "Cat Person" and ask my students whether the sex in the story is consensual. And every year, but increasingly more so, over the course of our classroom discussion I am distressed to realize how much work the notion of consent is doing in current cultural conversations about sex, such that it seems as if they have no way to conceptualize sex that is consensual, but bad, or consensual but unwanted. It is, however, very difficult to convey such notions without verging on sounding like a rape apologist. Or without potentially undermining the very positive and worthwhile work being done by all those who are promoting notions of affirmative consent.
So I appreciated this book so much, because it did an absolutely spectacular job of explaining why the idea of consent, though very important in some ways, is not the gateway to liberation that it is often presented as being. As Angel convincingly argues, to rely so heavily on the notion of affirmative consent is to demand, not only that people express what they want — but that they know what it is, exactly. Such a demand is not only unrealistic, is also fails to account for the ways in which desire is both responsive, and social. It's a really powerful meditation on what we actually want from our "sexual revolution", and how current approaches are falling short. The book is definitely centered on the experiences of cis-het women, but it's up-front about that, and is also careful to acknowledge some of the complications attendant to thinking about sexuality for woman of color, especially Black women.
A short, compelling read, well-researched, and with some great examples from a variety of films (and some really good ones at that). Strongly recommended!
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